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Etymology Journal · B

Better to ask forgiveness than permission

Meaning

The motto of the proactive and the impatient. It suggests that if you ask, they might say no, so it is easier to just do it and apologize later if anyone complains.

Daring, rebellious

Used in a sentence

  • Just install the software, it is better to ask forgiveness than permission.
  • I decided to paint the wall before he got home, better to ask forgiveness than permission.
  • I just threw the party, better to ask forgiveness than permission.

The backstory

This is often attributed to Grace Hopper, the computer science pioneer. While the sentiment existed for centuries, she popularized it as a philosophy for innovation and leadership.

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